問 我同事(shi)又晉(jin)升了，其他本事(shi)沒(mei)有就是(shi)會討好(hao)領導，我很納悶(men)，工作能(neng)力強(qiang)的沒(mei)有升，相反會奉承(cheng)的卻(que)升上去了。

答 送(song)你(ni)(ni)(ni)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)些(xie)在(zai)單位(wei)(wei)中(zhong)與(yu)領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)與(yu)同事(shi)(shi)相(xiang)(xiang)處(chu)(chu)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)經(jing)(jing)驗和(he)技巧(qiao)吧(ba)，希(xi)望(wang)對(dui)你(ni)(ni)(ni)有(you)(you)(you)幫(bang)助。在(zai)工(gong)(gong)(gong)作(zuo)(zuo)(zuo)中(zhong)，一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)定(ding)(ding)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)注(zhu)(zhu)意處(chu)(chu)理好(hao)領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)與(yu)同事(shi)(shi)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)關(guan)系，應注(zhu)(zhu)意如下(xia)幾點(dian)： 1、尊重(zhong)領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao) 在(zai)馬斯洛的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)層(ceng)次理論(lun)中(zhong)，得到(dao)(dao)(dao)尊重(zhong)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)排在(zai)了(le)較高(gao)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)層(ceng)次上(shang)(shang)（馬斯洛認為(wei)，人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)類(lei)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)分層(ceng)次的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)，由低到(dao)(dao)(dao)高(gao)。它們是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)：生理的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)、安全的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)、社交的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)、尊重(zhong)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)、自(zi)我實現(xian)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)） ，任何(he)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)都需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)得到(dao)(dao)(dao)尊重(zhong)，領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)更是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)得到(dao)(dao)(dao)尊重(zhong)，因為(wei)它是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)種(zhong)權威，是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)種(zhong)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)高(gao)級需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)求，別(bie)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)能當上(shang)(shang)你(ni)(ni)(ni)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)，一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)定(ding)(ding)有(you)(you)(you)比你(ni)(ni)(ni)強(qiang)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)地方(fang)(fang)，要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)服氣(qi)；是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)否尊重(zhong)領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)，意味著(zhu)員(yuan)工(gong)(gong)(gong)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)否想(xiang)在(zai)這(zhe)個工(gong)(gong)(gong)作(zuo)(zuo)(zuo)崗(gang)位(wei)(wei)上(shang)(shang)干(gan)得更長(chang)更好(hao)。 2、服從(cong)指(zhi)揮(hui) 很難想(xiang)象(xiang)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)個不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)服從(cong)指(zhi)揮(hui)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)員(yuan)工(gong)(gong)(gong)在(zai)職(zhi)場中(zhong)會(hui)(hui)受(shou)歡迎，服從(cong)指(zhi)揮(hui)對(dui)個人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)來(lai)(lai)講意味著(zhu)組(zu)織紀律性(xing)(xing)、對(dui)團(tuan)隊來(lai)(lai)講意味著(zhu)戰斗力(li)，對(dui)領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)來(lai)(lai)講意味著(zhu)執行(xing)力(li)。 蒙哥(ge)馬利(li)把(ba)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)分為(wei)四種(zhong)，一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)聰明(ming)又(you)(you)勤(qin)快、二是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)聰明(ming)又(you)(you)懶惰、三(san)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)愚蠢又(you)(you)懶惰、四是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)愚蠢又(you)(you)勤(qin)快，；第(di)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)種(zhong)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)可(ke)(ke)以(yi)當參謀，第(di)二種(zhong)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)可(ke)(ke)以(yi)當司令(ling)，第(di)三(san)種(zhong)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)可(ke)(ke)以(yi)支(zhi)配使(shi)(shi)用，第(di)四種(zhong)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)只能予以(yi)開除，個中(zhong)原因，可(ke)(ke)以(yi)仔(zi)細思考。 3、一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)切從(cong)善良的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)愿(yuan)(yuan)望(wang)出發 有(you)(you)(you)些(xie)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)在(zai)工(gong)(gong)(gong)作(zuo)(zuo)(zuo)中(zhong)伶牙利(li)齒，四處(chu)(chu)譏諷，經(jing)(jing)常(chang)會(hui)(hui)耍點(dian)小聰明(ming)，一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)句(ju)話常(chang)常(chang)使(shi)(shi)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)下(xia)不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)了(le)臺，久(jiu)而久(jiu)之(zhi)，人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)敬而遠(yuan)之(zhi)，領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)也頭痛不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)已，與(yu)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)為(wei)善，一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)言一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)行(xing)，一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)切從(cong)善良的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)愿(yuan)(yuan)望(wang)出發，是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)為(wei)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)處(chu)(chu)世做人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)根(gen)本。 4、必要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)禮節 人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)與(yu)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)之(zhi)間，需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)來(lai)(lai)往，不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)走不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)親，越走越親，回趟老(lao)(lao)家(jia)，給同事(shi)(shi)帶點(dian)土特產，專(zhuan)門給領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)帶一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)份，這(zhe)些(xie)都是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)情事(shi)(shi)故必要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)禮節，不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)怕領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)架子大，級別(bie)高(gao)，不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)敢交往，不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)敢說話，領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)也是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)，也會(hui)(hui)心存(cun)感激、這(zhe)份禮物(wu)，體現(xian)了(le)你(ni)(ni)(ni)對(dui)他(ta)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)尊重(zhong)；只要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)你(ni)(ni)(ni)精心挑選的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)東西，不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)在(zai)乎價值多少(shao)，經(jing)(jing)常(chang)送(song)點(dian)禮物(wu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)需(xu)(xu)(xu)(xu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)，你(ni)(ni)(ni)會(hui)(hui)受(shou)益匪淺(qian)。 5、遵(zun)守工(gong)(gong)(gong)作(zuo)(zuo)(zuo)規(gui)則 每個崗(gang)位(wei)(wei)都會(hui)(hui)有(you)(you)(you)自(zi)己(ji)(ji)(ji)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)工(gong)(gong)(gong)作(zuo)(zuo)(zuo)規(gui)矩，很多都是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)共性(xing)(xing)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)，來(lai)(lai)到(dao)(dao)(dao)這(zhe)個崗(gang)位(wei)(wei)，一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)定(ding)(ding)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)清楚自(zi)己(ji)(ji)(ji)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)角色和(he)崗(gang)位(wei)(wei)，該干(gan)什(shen)(shen)么(me)，不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)該干(gan)什(shen)(shen)么(me)，不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)犯(fan)大忌，比如有(you)(you)(you)些(xie)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)，喜歡到(dao)(dao)(dao)更高(gao)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)級的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)面(mian)前表現(xian)、匯(hui)報工(gong)(gong)(gong)作(zuo)(zuo)(zuo)，直接領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)恨得咬牙切齒，后(hou)(hou)果(guo)可(ke)(ke)想(xiang)而知，要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)表現(xian)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)應該的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)，但一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)定(ding)(ding)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)掌握方(fang)(fang)式方(fang)(fang)法、時機(ji)得當。 三(san)可(ke)(ke)三(san)不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)可(ke)(ke)：可(ke)(ke)以(yi)越級舉報、不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)可(ke)(ke)越級匯(hui)報，可(ke)(ke)以(yi)越級檢查(cha)、不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)可(ke)(ke)越級指(zhi)揮(hui)，可(ke)(ke)以(yi)專(zhuan)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)交辦(ban)、不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)可(ke)(ke)多人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)交辦(ban)。可(ke)(ke)以(yi)看出，前面(mian)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)條(tiao)(tiao)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)對(dui)員(yuan)工(gong)(gong)(gong)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)求，后(hou)(hou)面(mian)兩條(tiao)(tiao)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)對(dui)領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)求。 6、不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)在(zai)背(bei)后(hou)(hou)議(yi)論(lun) 天(tian)(tian)下(xia)沒有(you)(you)(you)不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)透(tou)風的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)墻，不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)在(zai)背(bei)后(hou)(hou)議(yi)論(lun)任何(he)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)，同事(shi)(shi)或者領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)，你(ni)(ni)(ni)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)任何(he)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)句(ju)話，會(hui)(hui)被同事(shi)(shi)在(zai)適當的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)時候(hou)使(shi)(shi)用；如果(guo)實在(zai)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)議(yi)論(lun)，就采(cai)用表揚的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)方(fang)(fang)式吧(ba)，背(bei)后(hou)(hou)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)好(hao)話才是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)真正的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)好(hao)話。 7、學習(xi)并充實自(zi)己(ji)(ji)(ji) 打鐵要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)靠本身(shen)硬，在(zai)工(gong)(gong)(gong)作(zuo)(zuo)(zuo)中(zhong)，你(ni)(ni)(ni)能與(yu)領(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)(ling)導(dao)(dao)(dao)(dao)、同事(shi)(shi)搞(gao)好(hao)關(guan)系、為(wei)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)處(chu)(chu)事(shi)(shi)大方(fang)(fang)得體，自(zi)身(shen)也注(zhu)(zhu)意學習(xi)與(yu)工(gong)(gong)(gong)作(zuo)(zuo)(zuo)有(you)(you)(you)關(guan)或相(xiang)(xiang)關(guan)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)知識(shi)，業務水平(ping)越來(lai)(lai)越高(gao)，你(ni)(ni)(ni)會(hui)(hui)感到(dao)(dao)(dao)，路(lu)會(hui)(hui)起走越寬暢。 8、相(xiang)(xiang)信(xin)(xin)自(zi)己(ji)(ji)(ji)，也相(xiang)(xiang)信(xin)(xin)別(bie)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren) 這(zhe)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)最重(zhong)要(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)(yao)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)句(ju)話，相(xiang)(xiang)信(xin)(xin)自(zi)己(ji)(ji)(ji)，這(zhe)件事(shi)(shi)，我能把(ba)它做好(hao)；它會(hui)(hui)讓(rang)你(ni)(ni)(ni)有(you)(you)(you)自(zi)信(xin)(xin)心，堅強(qiang)面(mian)對(dui)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)切艱難困(kun)苦。相(xiang)(xiang)信(xin)(xin)別(bie)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)，沒有(you)(you)(you)我，別(bie)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)也能把(ba)這(zhe)件事(shi)(shi)做好(hao)，它會(hui)(hui)使(shi)(shi)你(ni)(ni)(ni)謙虛不(bu)(bu)(bu)(bu)驕傲、知道天(tian)(tian)外有(you)(you)(you)天(tian)(tian)、人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)外有(you)(you)(you)人(ren)(ren)(ren)(ren)，幸(xing)虧今天(tian)(tian)有(you)(you)(you)事(shi)(shi)做。 工(gong)(gong)(gong)作(zuo)(zuo)(zuo)著(zhu)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)幸(xing)福的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)！ 最后(hou)(hou)，送(song)你(ni)(ni)(ni)三(san)句(ju)話：1、老(lao)(lao)板是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)對(dui)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)，2、老(lao)(lao)板永遠(yuan)是(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)(shi)對(dui)的(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)(de)，3、如果(guo)老(lao)(lao)板錯(cuo)了(le)，請參考第(di)一(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)(yi)條(tiao)(tiao)。